Healing from Grief

​Hello friends!

In this month's blog of encouragement I want to share some revelatory insight, practical steps and answer questions within this blog that you may have about this topic titled, "Healing from Grief."

Normally as I write these monthly words of encouragement they are also coupled with the prophetic words that are being released from this ministry. However, this months blog I felt strongly to talk specifically about this topic.

I have felt from the past few months that the Lord has been doing so much refreshing, heart recalibration and such deep deep healing in the heart. Many have gone through so many battles, trauma, pain, betrayal, and deep loss. When you have gone through so much for such a long time you also need to take time to heal and refresh from going through so much for so long. Otherwise, your heart will become hard, close-up and anyone trying to come close to you, you go into battle/flight mode. Trauma and grief will put you in caged corner if it is left unresolved.

Many have transitioned and separated from relationships, friendships, family etc. is this season and it can take a toll on you after awhile trying understand what happened and why. What I have noticed often times is that the Lord will use betrayal and hurt in a relationship to separate you from that person and situation. When this happens it is because there has been growth in you and the Lord is now moving you into your next and these people cannot go with you. They will hold you back, keep you stuck and delay destiny. The Lord will expose things that are hidden that you didn't see or know causing the betrayal, pain and grief in that relationship. This is part of the separation process.

When grief is involved you have to forgive and release the hurt, pain and trauma from that person and situation of what happened. Unresolved grief will turn into bitterness, resentment, anger and then rage. When you go through grief your mind has to catch up with what happened that the heart hasn't healed from yet. You have to heal from what didn't happen that you thought was going to happen, or why things turned out differently, and the understanding of what you thought you missed. This is why we must forgive and let go. The Lord wants your heart and mind aligned and in sync. When things are out of whack or in chaos it makes it harder to hear the Lord. Get your heart healed allows and makes room for greater clarity and hearing His voice. 

Grief can bring chaos in our heart, leave us shattered and scattered. This is why it is so important to forgive, let go and move forward and not be like Lots wife looking back. Looking back repeating and rehearsing what happened doesn't allow you to move into the next chapter or your life but it also doesn't let you live in the now either.

Grief and sorrow are terrible companions and can cause such misery if is not dealt with or resolved. Grief can deteriorate a person both physically, mentally and spiritually. You can gain weight, pick up addiction, start taking medication and start having dysfunctional relationships. Grief can cause all kinds of problems in person. 

Things that are left unresolved can causes layers causing a person to go deeper in the pit of grief, sorrow and misery. It can break cognition down in the mind slowly over time. Ever seen someone with Dementia, Alzheimer's, and constant memory loss? Grief is connected to this as it creates a web of distorted view, perception and cognition breakdown of thinking and thought processes over time. The enemy will use grief to distort your mind and take you into a reality that doesn't even exist. I will have to share more on this topic further in another blog article...

Lastly, to share I really feel strongly that many are at the final stages and finishing touches of healing, refreshing and completely letting go of the past because the next phase and chapter of your life is upon you as finish, "Healing from Grief."

Questions you may have pondered on about Grief:

• Why is it so hard to grieve sometimes? Sometimes wounds, hurts, pains are so deep that there are layers to the pain and it can take longer to grieve and heal from that pain. Grieving is a process and shouldn't be rushed. Your heart can become hard when you don't grieve right or allow yourself to grieve. This is why when your hurt or have been hurt, you must forgive and humble yourself. Humility and forgiveness is key to the healing process. You have to get it out and don't hold it in.
• How long does it take to grieve? It all depends on you. Sometimes it can happen instant and other times it will happen over time. Something could come up that would remind you of that person or something you may have done or shared together and suddenly starting crying. Crying is a good thing as it let you know your getting healed! This also lets you know a couple of things; you really cared or loved that person and you still were hurting from what happened with that person or situation and still need to heal from what happened. You were not only done healing from the loss and pain of what happened. When something reminds you of someone or comes to remembrances and you get anxiety or fear, it is indicator there is an unhealed wound or unresolved grief in your heart that needs healing as those reminders can serve as trigger points to the wound. 
• How do I grieve properly? Don't run from the pain. You have to face the pain and hurt. You don't want to rush the healing process. The Lord knows every part of your heart that needs healing and He is so gracious and kind to heal every part that hurts. He knows pain better than we do. Ask the Lord to help you let go of the pain of that situation as He gives grace to the humble when you ask. His grace will help you heal and overcome something you cannot do in your own strength. So if you seek His face and humble yourself before the Lord He will heal your land. He wants your heart healed and whole from whatever caused you the loss and grief.

Here are 10 practical steps to consider about healing from Grief:

1. The most important and vital step is to forgive and release the pain
2. Don't hold onto the pain, rehearse it or dwell on it - let it go
3. Unresolved grief can turn into anger which is dangerous
4. It can hardened your heart and the Lord wants us to have a tender and pliable heart
5. Let go of the idea of I should have done this, or should have done that, this will keep you stuck and in rehearsal
6. Don't let the enemy put guilt on you, the enemy will use guilt to make you feel worse, unworthy and in constant torment for no reason
7. Know when there is grief you have done all you can and done what you could have done to avoid certain things in that situation, be at peace with that knowing that you have done all you can
8. Trust the Lord always when betrayal, pain or loss happens as He knows what He is doing and works it all for the good every time
9. Trust the Lord as He always has a plan in the midst of grief and sorrow and He always turns it in joy
10. Let go of the why, the many questions that linger in your mind wondering why, as the majority of the time they will be unanswered this is why you have to forgive and let go of what happened as you will spend and waste more time trying to figure out answers to questions that can't be answered. 

Some scriptures for you to mediate and renew your mind on:

Psalm 34:18 "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."

2 Chronicles 7:14 'If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land.

Psalm 30:11-12 'You have turned my mourning into dancing for me; you have taken off my sackcloth and clothed me with joy, that my soul may sing praise to you and not be silent. O Lord my God, I will give thanks to you forever.'

Prayer for you to pray, declare and decree:

Lord, thank you for bringing an end to the grief, sorrow and pain. I come and humble myself before you to help me forgive those that have hurt me and caused me such grief. That your grace is sufficient and that love covers a multitude of sins. I forgive everyone person that brought me to this place of grief and sorrow. Lord forgive me if there was any unforgiveness, bitterness or anger towards any person that has hurt me that I was holding onto. I release and bless them. Thank you Lord for healing every part of my heart and my crushed spirit. That you are restoring my mind and my heart. Both my mind and heart are coming back into alignment and I will walk in soundness of mind. Every pain, sorrow, and grief is being turning into joy as your word is working in and through me now to bring about your perfect plans. That you have worked it all for the good even when I don't understand. I lay it all down at your feet and don't pick up or look back it again. Sever, cut and separate what needs to be done both in my soul and spirit from anything that would hinder your will being done in and through my life. Let your plans that you have prepared, orchestrated in this season come to pass strategically, intricately and in your perfect timing. In Jesus name, Amen!

Let this word bless, encourage, bring insight, activate and impart into you for the month we are in and how to move forward out of grief and sorrow into His manifested plans for your life!

Grace and Love to you all!

~Lorilei